Consultation hour with Lisa Müller

There is probably no family without quarrels. Why does it often feel so bad? How can we learn to fight in a healthy way? And what kind of quarreller am I actually?

Lisa Müller is a family counselor, mediator, and psychotherapist in private practice. Through her work with people in diverse relationship constellations, she knows that conflict isn’t inherently bad—as long as it isn’t conducted in a destructive way.

As a trained psychologist, mediator, and psychodynamic psychotherapist, Lisa Müller has worked in various day clinics, as a mediator for couples, flat-sharing communities, and other relationship constellations, as well as in a peer counseling project at the youth network Lambda, where young LGBTIQA+ people counsel other young people. Supporting individuals in discovering who they are and how they want to live brings her great joy. Alongside her private practice, Lisa Müller works at a Berlin-based educational and family counseling center. Her work there often revolves around family conflicts, for example in cases of parental separation or conflicts between parents and adolescents going through puberty. Lisa Müller helps families recognize needs, develop solutions, and make space for the family members’ desire for connection and attachment.

Because of her personal and professional background, she works with many people living in queer and other non-traditional family models. Families with more than two parents, with trans* and queer family members, co‑parenting arrangements without romantic relationships, or families with polyamorous relationships often have fewer role models and defined roles to draw upon, which can lead to greater insecurity. However, she notes that the themes and patterns of conflict largely resemble those in “traditional” families.

During the Consultation Hour, you can ask her your questions. Why do I argue differently now than at the beginning of my (romantic) relationship? Are there methods for constructive conflict? Should I (and if so, when should I) approach a family member again even though I’m still so upset? Why do I act more like my parents now that I have children? And can conflict between parents actually be good for children?

A Consultation Hour for everyone – free of charge, no appointment necessary, no waiting time.